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The Top 10 Reasons Marriages End in Divorce

The top ten reasons people get divorced.

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By Mary Montgomery

In life, things happen for a reason and divorce is one of those life events that just doesn’t happen by accident. In a marriage, whether it’s been a year or 20 years, problems tend to build up over time. If one or both of the spouses chooses not to share how they’re feeling, the probability of reaching a divorce at that point is very likely.

Based on a survey conducted by the National Fatherhood Institute, the top reasons for divorce in the U.S. across all demographics included a lack of commitment by one or both partners, too much arguing, and infidelity. In today’s day and age, more marriages end in divorce, we’ve compiled a list of the top ten “symptoms” or reasons why divorce happens.

10 Reasons Why Divorce Happens

1. Lack of communication. This is one of the major reasons why divorce happens. Distance is created quickly if you don’t share your feelings, don’t tell your partner what’s happening, and keep your feelings to yourself. A successful relationship constantly keeps the lines of communication open.

2. Finances. Money talks and can make your life better or in some cases worse than you were. If money becomes a consistent topic of disagreement, the road to divorce is certain.

3. Feeling constrained. You may feel your marriage is holding you back from achieving goals and taking opportunities. If your partner can’t support you, then they don’t support the marriage.

4. Trust. Do you really trust your spouse? Trust is one of the leading factors in having a successful relationship and marriage. Your marriage is unlikely to survive if you don’t trust your spouse.

5. Expectations from each other. When expectations aren’t met, it can put a strain on the relationship. This leads to a personality conflict because one or the other spouse won’t bend to sacrifice their time and comfort.

6. Your spouse doesn’t understand / fulfill your needs and desires. It’s common knowledge that we all have different needs and wants. A partner who won’t acknowledge your interests and desires won’t go the distance to fulfill your needs and wants.

7. Quick change in lifestyle. Couples that can’t compromise and meet in the middle are unable to adapt to new changes and be together in harmony.

8. Insecurity. Jealousy and insecurity can lead to fights, and questioning each other’s intentions can put a dent into trust and your relationship moving forward.

9. Religious and cultural differences. Religious beliefs and cultural values can cause conflict, which affects the way you live your life and raise your children. If you aren’t committed to adapting and practicing these values, this can be an ultimate deal breaker.

10. Abuse. Lastly, if you’ve been in a situation where your partner has been abusive or controlling in any manner, discuss this rationally with your spouse. If need be, contact a trusted family, friend, or your attorney about this matter.

Before You Say The ‘D’ Word

 When a person has a valid reason to divorce, he or she knows when to go through the process. Before you consider the “D Word,” speak to an experienced family law and divorce attorney to discuss your case and options. A divorce lawyer can act as both a counselor and sounding board for you during this stressful life event.

This post is contributed by a community member. The views expressed in this blog are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of Patch Media Corporation. Everyone is welcome to submit a post to Patch.

John February 16, 2014 at 12:40 PM
Hate to break it to you, Nanci, but that neglect door definitely swings both ways. Also, it's kinda hard to undertake genuine love and sweet talk when either (a) you're being ignored/not being spoken to or (b) you're being screamed at. It's difficult to hug a porcupine when its quills are out, know what I mean?
Bruce Thompson February 16, 2014 at 01:19 PM
ONLY for legal matters, but only after you or both have sought the knowledge and wisdom of a couple’s/marriage/relationship expert. A marriage is first a mountain to be climbed together to get to the other side - a path that enhances both of your lives if your have the social and emotional intelligence, commitment, good will, shared CORE values, liability, and faith in the unknown. They can be strengthened over time as you move from a road filled with potholes to a shared life path!
Stu Pidasso February 16, 2014 at 01:50 PM
the way I have been looking at relationships since I was 15 years old ( hearing about the intimacy being about as dry as the saharan desert after a few years of a relationship) , is this... If I am no longer screwing the women I am with, do I want to continue this relationship with her next to my side as far as having conversations, being a friend, etc. if I cannot answer yes, it's as good as over then...
Socio Economist May 09, 2014 at 07:40 PM
#10 is what keeps a marriage together. Women need to be controlled and told what to do or else they screw up everything including their own lives. Be careful taking this lesbien's advice ladies, they attorney isn't going to stop your psycho husband from hunting you down.

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